My 28th Year Around The Sun

In 4 days I’m turning 28 (or as my mum reminds me regularly – nearly 30). I must admit that I had big dreams, plans and goals for my 27th year around the sun, and let’s just say that some went to plan, and some haven’t.

As each year passes I am beginning to move more with the flow, and less to plan, I am beginning to accept myself and all my floors for who I am, and not who I thought I should be at this point in my life (or where).

If you’d asked me 10 years ago where I thought I would be by 28, it would be what I would now call a white picket fence styled life, but the truth is my path has been full of more ups and downs than I can count, and challenges, some of which I did not see coming, but I’ve made it, I’m nearly 28 (or 30 – thanks again mum), and I’m pretty proud of the woman I am today (even if I have more of a weird hedge.. instead of a white picket fence).

So last night I was chilling home by myself and decided to watch a movie, you know, one of those girly ‘only watch by yourself’ movies. The movie was called ‘The Women’, and it’s from all the way back in 2008. To be honest I consider myself a bit of a movie novelist (quoting scenes from movies daily), that I actually am surprised I hadn’t seen it, though I thank Netflix for putting it in my ‘you might like’ list, because I weirdly really loved it, and it was the total inspiration behind this blog post.

One scene in particular really stood out to me, for a lot of reasons, but probably from an emotional and mental standpoint. The scene is of two women, one very sure of herself, and another very lost. The sure one says to the unsure, ‘Who are you? ..and what do you want?’, and for whatever reason in that moment this really spoke to me. I thought to myself, who am I, really?

When asked the question who are you I think it’s easy enough to go through the standard elevator pitch of how old you are, where you are from, what do you do for work etc. but in this moment I came up with 6 things that I believe I am as a person, not on paper (and completely shocked myself – completely, with what came to mind).

Who am I? This is what I began reciting to myself last night over and over.

I am..

  1. Strong.
  2. Independent.
  3. Intelligent.
  4. Sexy.
  5. Creative.
  6. Big-hearted.

Now some of the above might seem a little ego driven, but honestly this is probably the first time I’ve ever said those words to myself after keeping myself off my own pedestal for so long (or maybe even for my whole life so far).

Strong..

I’ve lived a life of feeling like I’ve had to be the one to pick up the pieces, always being the one that people seem to come to for their own guidance, reassurance or help when they are in need. The one that people seem to call at midnight when they aren’t coping, or need someone to talk to.

You know, I think I’ve not allowed myself to realise that it takes a strong person to be there for others when they need it. That it takes a strong person to stay strong, and remain strong in circumstances where others are falling apart. I thought that because in my own mind I often feel like I’m in pieces, that that makes me weak, but really I’ve been strong all along.

Independent..

When I look back on my journey to where I am now, I did not realise the height of how independent I have been along the way. I have done so much on my own.. such as move to a big city at 19 with nothing to my name, land myself past and present really decent jobs, buy myself my first car, attend events on my own, and so much more.

Being independent doesn’t mean being alone in your journey, it’s knowing and owning what it is you need to do throughout it by yourself. Looking back over the last 10 years I really have achieved so much on my own, more than I think I’ve ever given myself credit for. I can’t name many 20 year olds that bought a brand new car as their first car, all on their own. I remember driving it out of the dealership and being in total awe of my little ride and where she could take me.

Intelligent..

This is something I’ve always struggled believing. I finished high school, but haven’t ever completed any study I’ve embarked on. I’ve in the past started 3 courses, 1 at University (Journalism), 1 through TAFE (Legal Administration and Business) and 1 though a private institute (Personal Training), and I never completed them, though I paid for most of them I don’t really have anything to show for it now.

I don’t know why I’ve felt that qualifications equal intelligence, as I have come to realise that that’s not the case. Life itself requires so much every single day to make it happen, and sometimes when I talk to new people about topics I am passionate about they react with this sense of, wow, you are so knowledgeable in this field. I think it’s time that I embraced my intelligence on my own level, and not compare myself to others standards of what it looks like.

Sexy..

Now, I’ve always seen myself as this forever-baby-faced 20 something, I don’t think in my entire life have I ever described myself as ‘sexy’. I mean, does anybody say that when asked who they are? What I’ve come to realise is that I am sexy, when I am being myself, when I am owning who I am, raw and real, in such a way that I light up from the inside out when I walk into a room.

We shouldn’t need someone to tell us that we are sexy, we simply need to own the truth and believe it for ourselves. Sexy isn’t just on the outside either, sometimes I think my personality is too much for this world, feeling a little weird most of the time within my own mind, but it’s when I let go of that underlying fear of judgement that I feel the most confident, and sexy. Confidence is one of the sexiest things you will ever possess (I feel like a total #GirlBOSS even writing that).

Creative..

Often I forget how creative I am, and how passionate I am about creating. Whether it’s in the kitchen, photography, writing my blog posts, drawing or looking back on some of the paintings I use to put to canvas, I forget. It sounds a weird thing to forget about, but I guess having gone down a career path away from the creative industry, I need to put more effort into my creative side.

I think this is the time where I hold myself accountable to finally get my easel out and start painting again. Painting use to be one of my biggest passions, and then when I moved I stopped enriching that creative desire completely, always making excuses as to why I can’t do it. Now I think about it, there is actually absolutely no reason why I can’t paint, I mean, who knows where it could take me with all the avenues we have now to showcase our work (some of mine has never seen the light of day). Honing into something you are passionate about really is one of the greatest pleasures, and something I am holding myself to do more often. Less excuses, more acrylics.

Big-hearted..

I really do care, a lot. About things I should and things I shouldn’t. Though as the years have gone by I have been practicing to see it as a gift rather than a curse to feel as much as I do. I find myself wanting to numb these feelings and hide them away, but love really is something to be cherished and nurtured.

I use to do a lot more for a lot of people, but I’ve lost my way over the years after not knowing how to do things for myself. Not practical things, but things such as looking after myself so that I would have the energy to do the same for others. I‘ve been so lost within my own heart that I’ve forgotten how big my heart really is, and I think it’s time to also bring this back into play. There really is no better feeling than giving your love.

I hope you enjoyed this little pre-Birthday post as much as I did writing it. Here’s to my 28th year around our big, bright sparkling star, being open to whatever the future holds and The Universe hands me, and cheers to owning the strong, independent, intelligent, sexy, creative and big-hearted woman that I know I am.

All my love,

5 Ways to Find Your Spring SPARKLE + You Are Meant to Bloom

The sun has begun to rise earlier, and stay up longer. That can only mean one thing, Spring is here (in Australia anyway for my Aussie sparkling readers). I don’t know about you, but Spring is my favourite month of the year.

There are many reasons as to why I love Spring so much, September is my Birthday month, trees, plants and flowers re-bloom, and the weather starts to warm up which means I no longer have to brave the cold Winter swell of the ocean.

Spring though I feel has such an exciting underlying feeling once reached, it’s like we come out from under the covers and feel somewhat reborn when we remove the layers from our Winter safe havens. I am and have never been a fan of the cold, growing up in a coastal town will do that to you. I for one cannot wait to put away the Winter wardrobe and say hello to my favourite summer dresses and one pieces.

I’m feeling super inspired to move into this beautiful season with SPARKLE, so I thought I would share with you a list of things you can easily do to find your Spring SPARKLE too..

5 easy ways to find your Spring SPARKLE..

  • Dust off your diary and plan the next 4 months ahead, not plan as in ‘Today I need to do this..’, but look toward the future and include any exciting events or things that you want to achieve. As we head to the end of the year it’s so easy to forget that we still have so much to look forward to and get excited about.
  • Lock in some catch ups with those friends you’ve been meaning to catch up with all year, and finally make it happen. When you are working on the above block out some days just for the people you love, and hold yourself accountable to spend it with them.
  • Step out of your cozy comfort zone and try something new, whether it’s something you’ve been thinking about or something that has only recently appeared on your radar. It’s never too late to surprise yourself.
  • Not a green thumb? Me neither, though I have two thriving plant babies I must say that it’s not my first talent that I would list. Spring is the perfect time to get into your garden, or if you don’t have one how about making a cute little windowsill edible garden for your kitchen, or even a succulent bowl for the dining table or lounge room. Gardening is said to enhance wellbeing by encouraging you to slow down and enjoy the simple things in life.
  • Work in a regular self love date with yourself. Coming up to the end of any year so many of us become so busy that we forget about one person, the one that needs the most love in order to give back fully, ourselves. I love making time over a weekend to do a little DIY pamper such as a home facemask.

As above, it’s never too late to make this year your best yet. With only 4 months left, there’s still time to fill your year with SPARKLE that you can look back on when the New Year rolls around. This blog post is a little reminder from me to you, to not lose sight of what’s important to you or give up on your dreams, goals and plans, that you still absolutely can make the most of every day. With glistening Spring days, there is no better time to dust off those gardening gloves than today, my sparkling reader.

I hope this blog post has inspired you to get your Spring SPARKLE on too. I’d love to know in the comments below what Spring means to you, and what your plans are to get your SPARKLE on to make the most of this beautiful season and the rest of 2018.

All my love,

Copywriting for Business Workshop Presented by Real Women Co

On Wednesday, 29 August 2018, I attended one of Real Women Co’s Women in Business workshops, which was Copywriting for Business. I had recently attended another (read it here ‘Digital Marketing Workshop Presented by Real Women Co‘) and absolutely loved it, I was totally in my element at that event, so as soon as one of their Women in Business series workshops tickled my blogging fancy I was all over that early bird Real Women Co member ticket.

This workshop was held at a different location to the previous one I attended. The location was the divine Newstead Studios in Newstead, Brisbane. I arrived to the event about a half hour early as I went straight after work. The sun was beginning to set which made these studios absolutely sparkle from the outside in. I could not wait to go inside and be amongst this beautiful, inspiring space. From the lighting, to the wall creeping plants, once I was inside I was totally in love.

The workshop was based at the front of the studios, in a gorgeously lit space, conference style again with chairs laid out and run alongside a powerpoint style presentation to accompany the content by the guest speaker.

On our chairs we were gifted a Real Women Co tote bag, mine said ‘Hustle’ which I absolutely love, a Real Women Co notepad and pen to use throughout the workshop and water because when you attend a workshop like this, with a bunch of inspiring and motivated women, you talk, a lot (I do anyway – and I did).

The guest speaker for the workshop was..

  • Anita – founder of Wordfetti (@wordfetti)

Anita absolutely blew this workshop out of the water (or ink if we want to get wordy). She came with passion and an abundance of knowledge to share with us, including some of her personal copywriting secrets not yet shared which was extremely saucy (secret sauce she called it).

Anita started Wordfetti whilst still in the corporate world, and has since left the corporate field to follow her side hustle full time. Wordfetti is a Copywriting Haus focussed on copywriting, creating brands personal stories, helping businesses with their content strategy, workshops like this and so much more.

If you would like to learn more about Anita and her absolutely flourishing copywriting child Wordfetti, you can do so through their website with all of their links to all of the things www.wordfettigroup.com.

Partway through we were treated to a platter courteous of Miss Bliss Wholefoods, and as usual with anything by Miss Bliss it did not disappoint the tastebuds. It was also a fun way of gathering and networking as we nourished together around it mid workshop.

My favourite key takeaways from the event were..

  • Copywriting humanises your brand and creates your brand identity, establishes your audience connection and above all makes you stand out
  • There is a big difference between ‘good’ copy and ‘great’ copy, GOOD copy might establish: product features/benefits, your qualifications > GREAT copy will establish: feel, value, what you have to offer (off paper)
  • Stop following the ‘crowd’ to establish your version of copy, focus on your brand and audience
  • Words have a lot of power to create anything you want if used well
  • Successful copy is audience driven, not self driven
  • Copy shouldn’t just establish what, go deeper into the how and why, people love a personal story
  • “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” – Dale Carnegie

Anita was an absolute pleasure to listen to, learn from and meet. I look forward to connecting again in the future. On the night I also met and connected with a few other likeminded women with big dreams, sparkly passion projects and #BOSSbabe attitudes. When you put yourself out there, you never know who you will meet, which is why I love attending workshops because most likely you will leave with not only knowledge, but new friends and connections to help your dreams flourish too.

Thank you so much once again to the founders of Real Women Co, Jacqui (@therealmissbliss) and Katherine (@kbsugarfree). Katherine hosted this event on her own this time and was an absolute shining star at it as always.

If you would like to know more about Real Women Co or are interested in attending the next Women in Business workshop you can learn more at..

Instagram @realwomenco

Website www.realwomenco.com

I have said it before and I will say it again, I am so thankful and grateful to have the opportunity to attend events like this and get my baby, my passion project, SPARKLE on darling out there into the world, more and more, little by little in such a personal way. Never doubt the power behind sharing your story and the souls who you tell it to, you never know what it could mean for your journey in the future.

All my love,