My 28th Year Around The Sun

In 4 days I’m turning 28 (or as my mum reminds me regularly – nearly 30). I must admit that I had big dreams, plans and goals for my 27th year around the sun, and let’s just say that some went to plan, and some haven’t.

As each year passes I am beginning to move more with the flow, and less to plan, I am beginning to accept myself and all my floors for who I am, and not who I thought I should be at this point in my life (or where).

If you’d asked me 10 years ago where I thought I would be by 28, it would be what I would now call a white picket fence styled life, but the truth is my path has been full of more ups and downs than I can count, and challenges, some of which I did not see coming, but I’ve made it, I’m nearly 28 (or 30 – thanks again mum), and I’m pretty proud of the woman I am today (even if I have more of a weird hedge.. instead of a white picket fence).

So last night I was chilling home by myself and decided to watch a movie, you know, one of those girly ‘only watch by yourself’ movies. The movie was called ‘The Women’, and it’s from all the way back in 2008. To be honest I consider myself a bit of a movie novelist (quoting scenes from movies daily), that I actually am surprised I hadn’t seen it, though I thank Netflix for putting it in my ‘you might like’ list, because I weirdly really loved it, and it was the total inspiration behind this blog post.

One scene in particular really stood out to me, for a lot of reasons, but probably from an emotional and mental standpoint. The scene is of two women, one very sure of herself, and another very lost. The sure one says to the unsure, ‘Who are you? ..and what do you want?’, and for whatever reason in that moment this really spoke to me. I thought to myself, who am I, really?

When asked the question who are you I think it’s easy enough to go through the standard elevator pitch of how old you are, where you are from, what do you do for work etc. but in this moment I came up with 6 things that I believe I am as a person, not on paper (and completely shocked myself – completely, with what came to mind).

Who am I? This is what I began reciting to myself last night over and over.

I am..

  1. Strong.
  2. Independent.
  3. Intelligent.
  4. Sexy.
  5. Creative.
  6. Big-hearted.

Now some of the above might seem a little ego driven, but honestly this is probably the first time I’ve ever said those words to myself after keeping myself off my own pedestal for so long (or maybe even for my whole life so far).

Strong..

I’ve lived a life of feeling like I’ve had to be the one to pick up the pieces, always being the one that people seem to come to for their own guidance, reassurance or help when they are in need. The one that people seem to call at midnight when they aren’t coping, or need someone to talk to.

You know, I think I’ve not allowed myself to realise that it takes a strong person to be there for others when they need it. That it takes a strong person to stay strong, and remain strong in circumstances where others are falling apart. I thought that because in my own mind I often feel like I’m in pieces, that that makes me weak, but really I’ve been strong all along.

Independent..

When I look back on my journey to where I am now, I did not realise the height of how independent I have been along the way. I have done so much on my own.. such as move to a big city at 19 with nothing to my name, land myself past and present really decent jobs, buy myself my first car, attend events on my own, and so much more.

Being independent doesn’t mean being alone in your journey, it’s knowing and owning what it is you need to do throughout it by yourself. Looking back over the last 10 years I really have achieved so much on my own, more than I think I’ve ever given myself credit for. I can’t name many 20 year olds that bought a brand new car as their first car, all on their own. I remember driving it out of the dealership and being in total awe of my little ride and where she could take me.

Intelligent..

This is something I’ve always struggled believing. I finished high school, but haven’t ever completed any study I’ve embarked on. I’ve in the past started 3 courses, 1 at University (Journalism), 1 through TAFE (Legal Administration and Business) and 1 though a private institute (Personal Training), and I never completed them, though I paid for most of them I don’t really have anything to show for it now.

I don’t know why I’ve felt that qualifications equal intelligence, as I have come to realise that that’s not the case. Life itself requires so much every single day to make it happen, and sometimes when I talk to new people about topics I am passionate about they react with this sense of, wow, you are so knowledgeable in this field. I think it’s time that I embraced my intelligence on my own level, and not compare myself to others standards of what it looks like.

Sexy..

Now, I’ve always seen myself as this forever-baby-faced 20 something, I don’t think in my entire life have I ever described myself as ‘sexy’. I mean, does anybody say that when asked who they are? What I’ve come to realise is that I am sexy, when I am being myself, when I am owning who I am, raw and real, in such a way that I light up from the inside out when I walk into a room.

We shouldn’t need someone to tell us that we are sexy, we simply need to own the truth and believe it for ourselves. Sexy isn’t just on the outside either, sometimes I think my personality is too much for this world, feeling a little weird most of the time within my own mind, but it’s when I let go of that underlying fear of judgement that I feel the most confident, and sexy. Confidence is one of the sexiest things you will ever possess (I feel like a total #GirlBOSS even writing that).

Creative..

Often I forget how creative I am, and how passionate I am about creating. Whether it’s in the kitchen, photography, writing my blog posts, drawing or looking back on some of the paintings I use to put to canvas, I forget. It sounds a weird thing to forget about, but I guess having gone down a career path away from the creative industry, I need to put more effort into my creative side.

I think this is the time where I hold myself accountable to finally get my easel out and start painting again. Painting use to be one of my biggest passions, and then when I moved I stopped enriching that creative desire completely, always making excuses as to why I can’t do it. Now I think about it, there is actually absolutely no reason why I can’t paint, I mean, who knows where it could take me with all the avenues we have now to showcase our work (some of mine has never seen the light of day). Honing into something you are passionate about really is one of the greatest pleasures, and something I am holding myself to do more often. Less excuses, more acrylics.

Big-hearted..

I really do care, a lot. About things I should and things I shouldn’t. Though as the years have gone by I have been practicing to see it as a gift rather than a curse to feel as much as I do. I find myself wanting to numb these feelings and hide them away, but love really is something to be cherished and nurtured.

I use to do a lot more for a lot of people, but I’ve lost my way over the years after not knowing how to do things for myself. Not practical things, but things such as looking after myself so that I would have the energy to do the same for others. I‘ve been so lost within my own heart that I’ve forgotten how big my heart really is, and I think it’s time to also bring this back into play. There really is no better feeling than giving your love.

I hope you enjoyed this little pre-Birthday post as much as I did writing it. Here’s to my 28th year around our big, bright sparkling star, being open to whatever the future holds and The Universe hands me, and cheers to owning the strong, independent, intelligent, sexy, creative and big-hearted woman that I know I am.

All my love,

Don’t Be Afraid to Change Your Mind, It’s What Makes You Human

I made a big decision recently when it comes to my online identity (read it here – ‘Let Go to Move Forward‘), and even more recently went a full 360 back on that decision as it’s where my heart lead me. It’s hard sometimes going back on one’s word, but as humans we are forever evolving, ever-changing, emotional beings, one moment we might feel one way, the next.. another way. I’m a big believer in following these feelings, even if they lead, for example in my case, ‘backwards’.

After going back towards something I decided to let go of, I now know that I had nothing to worry about, but worry a lot I did before I did it. I was worried what my community would think of me (again) after making such a big deal about leaving it behind in the first place, I was worried that they wouldn’t come with me (again), I was worried that I was making a very bad decision (again), but, I wasn’t, I know that now. There’s no such thing as backwards if it helps you grow.

Throughout my entire life I have changed my mind more than I could ever count. Some days I am lead towards one thing, and the next a total opposite direction, and I realise now that this is what life is, it’s one big maze that will always pull you in different directions, but what matters when you are going in these different directions is that you stay true to you, to who you are, to who you know you are, that’s what matters.

If something doesn’t feel right to you, this isn’t by coincidence, there’s a reason. Humans are walking vibrations, energy filled vessels, though not all of us allow ourselves to connect to the rhythms of our hearts and souls to really listen. I often tune in to how I am feeling, not that I always act on it, though in this instance I did for various reasons. It’s important to go within and seek direction. I did ask my community if they thought I was making the right choice, but deep down I knew that I was going to do it anyway, because it felt right, I needed to do it for me, and hold my head high whilst I waited out any ripples that came with it. So far I feel very grateful in that I haven’t lost anything by doing so, in my opinion I feel I have actually gained from the situation, because it’s shown others that it’s ok to change your mind, even when it comes to big decisions that you have already made, because it’s what makes you human.

I would rather go back on my word and feel the ups and downs for myself, than never know what might have been. To me, growing doesn’t always mean forward, or up. Don’t be afraid to give yourself the opportunity to follow your heart, no matter the direction. It may not always work out, but if you trust in your path, more often than not, it will.

All my love,

Let Go to Move Forward

Sometimes, you have to let go of something in order to move forward. Letting go of anything is always scary, no matter which aspect of your life it relates to, because if you are having to ‘let go’ of something, it means you’ve been holding onto it for a long time, and deep down, it’s because it means a lot to you.

Over the last 2-3 years, I’ve let go of a lot of things, a lot, big things, life changing-heart breaking-permanent.. things, and recently, I made the decision to let go of something that has been almost like a part of my identity for the past 5 years. It was something that I feel I’ve wanted to do for a long time, but didn’t have the courage to.

The following has gone through my head in every moment I would think about letting go of this ‘part of my identity’.. “what would I do after it?”, “who would I be?”, “would people remember me?”, “but it’s given me so much over the last 5 years, how could I give that up?” or simply, “I can’t give up on this”. Well maybe, just maybe, letting go doesn’t mean you are giving up at all, it simply means, you are letting go, in order to move forward.

So I let go, I made the announcement, I said goodbye to an online community of thousands of people and businesses who have followed my personal journey through social media for the past 5 years, and guess what, the sky didn’t fall, I’m totally fine and the support I received from my beautiful little community has been completely overwhelming, in the most heartwarming, soul oozing way possible. Words literally cannot describe the gratitude I have felt over the last few days.

Now, I’m moving foward, I’ve started a new online community on social media through a private account for now, and taken only those with me who genuinly wanted to come, who reached out to me to continue my journey with me. Those who have come with me aren’t even 10% of my followers, but I’m so glad I did it the way I have, publicly, but privately moving forward, organically, in my own way. Social media can be a beautiful experience, you know, if you choose to use it in the right way.

I guess you can say as I have let go of one journey to start another, I really haven’t given up at all, I’ve just found the courage to make a change to align with my values and visions at this point in my life. My large social media following was no longer serving me, to be honest it was draining me, I wasn’t following my heart anymore through keeping it and through holding on with hope that my feelings towards it might change. I needed to channel my energy, time and love elsewhere, I needed to listen to where my heart wanted to take me, I needed to reclaim my identity.

For those who might be wondering, there will be no changes to my blog, other than the fact that I have to go through all of my copy now since the very beggining and edit it to reflect my new journey. I will still be popping up on the world wide web and into your inbox if you are one of my subscribers on a weekly basis. Basically, this short and sweet blog post was to update you too, my sparkling reader, and to let you know that it’s ok to be scared of making big changes, we all are, even when you don’t know what will happen once you do, because that’s how you grow from a place of truth, that my darling, is how you truly evolve into who you are and go where you are meant to be.

All my love,

Don’t Let Anyone (or Anything) Dull Your SPARKLE

Photo by Kelly Adams Photography

You may have read or heard this quote before, ‘Don’t let anyone dull your SPARKLE’, for me though this isn’t just a quote, but a mantra I now live by.

When I first started my journey to become the best version of me I lost a lot.. I lost friends, I lost confidence, I became riddled with self doubt, I was ridiculed for choosing a healthier way of life, I copped slack for wearing activewear all the time, I was laughed at for drinking green smoothies, I was put down for chasing my dream of being the best version of me I could be. It’s a funny thing that when you follow the crowd, that that leads to acceptance amongst society, I mean, what is acceptance anyway if you don’t accept yourself? When I chose to begin to change my path, to stop partying every single weekend, to stop surrounding myself with toxic people, to say no more often, to say yes to what made ‘me’ feel good, to do what made my heart and soul SPARKLE, everything changed. This is when I truly started to become the best version of me, I finally started to become the person I was always meant to be.

I remember when I first started my Instagram account @chloeawilson, I started by posting about all of the above and from there I started to organically grow a beautiful little community who got behind me and what I loved, they got behind ‘me’, the me who I thought the world didn’t like because of the bullying I received that came with my new path. I learnt from my community that no matter how hard it gets you have to stick to what you believe in, you have to keep at it and not give up, ever, that there will always be someone who believes in you, it just won’t be everyone, and that’s ok. If you really want to become the best version of you that you can be and live a life that ‘you’ are proud of, you have to let go of what others think of you, this is your journey not theirs.

You know, not once in my life have I ever felt the need to put others down for doing something that doesn’t directly affect me whether I agreed with it or not, so it was very hard for me to overcome the demons that kept pushing me down and that kept making it harder for me to get back up each and every time. I can honestly say that I spent countless nights in tears crying myself to sleep asking why people were so cruel to me, what did I ever do to them to deserve this when what I do doesn’t affect them. I eventually learnt that you can’t change what others think of you, that what others think of you and what you do has nothing to do with you, it is more a reflection of what they lack within themselves and what they are unhappy about within their own journey. I started to believe in myself even more, I let go of the non-believers and the (need I say) haters and left them so far behind that now I honestly can’t even remember who they are anymore, because they didn’t come with me on my new journey, they weren’t meant to be a part of this path I’m on now.

If I had let them win, those who tried so very hard to dull my SPARKLE every time I shined I wouldn’t be where I am now. I wouldn’t have grown my beautiful little community over on Instagram (@chloeawilson) and my passion project here, SPARKLE on darling. It hurts my heart to even say that if I had let them win that this blog may not even exist. So thank you to those who tried, without you I wouldn’t SPARKLE with confidence like I do now. One thing to remember when pursuing something different in amongst a society that tries to make everyone all the same, is that no matter what happens, don’t be like ‘them’, the people who try to dull you, don’t be anything like them. Let them try, let them tip out all of your glitter on the ground, but don’t be like them and bring them down, do though be better, kneel down, give thanks to your own journey and pick up that damn glitter and continue to throw it all around.

You may be wondering after all of the above how I first came across this mantra I now live by, well, once again from my community (who knew social media could be so powerful). Over the years I have had so many of my beautiful followers personally tell me that I SPARKLE, I SPARKLE and SHINE no matter what life seems to throw at me, and I guess from there it stuck with me, it came from people who believed and still believe in me, it became powerful, it’s what I’m known for and it’s part of who I am now. And from being known as the soul who sparkles, my ‘SPARKLE Jar’ was born (dedicated blog post to come about this little jar), and soon after this blog, SPARKLE on darling, because I believe that everybody deserves to SPARKLE, I believe that everybody owes themselves to show the world who they really are.

My original vision for SPARKLE on darling was and still is for it to be a place where one can go to be inspired to be their best selves, to chase your dreams and to learn to not let anyone or anything dull your SPARKLE, because the world needs your SPARKLE. Don’t get me wrong though even after I say all of this sometimes it’s still hard to keep the demons at bay because they continue to show up throughout the journey, but each time they do I remember what I’ve been through and how far I’ve come.

So Darling soul, don’t let anyone (or anything) dull your SPARKLE, and if they try, get back up, throw some of your glitter around and promise me that you will never give up (because darling let me tell you – glitter is really hard to get off).

All my love,

27 Lessons

Photo by Kelly Adams Photography

In 3 days I’m turning 27, the big TWO SEVEN.. 3 years out from 30 (or nearly 30 as my mum recently said to me – thanks mum). Time flies when you are growing, learning, making mistakes, finding yourself, your path and your purpose, and boy have I been there, done that, and a whole lot more.

There is though a lot that I wanted to have done or become by 27, but I don’t regret anything that I have done in my life, nor do I hold anyone or anything accountable for what has happened to me throughout my journey. I truly believe that I am exactly where I am meant to be right now in this very moment, even if it’s not where I envisioned myself at 27, I am still so full of gratitude for the life I am blessed to live today.

To celebrate becoming a 27 year old I wanted to share with you 27 lessons that I have learnt a long the way..

  1. Life truly is a gift.
  2. The journey is always worth it.
  3. Money is simply a part of life not a pursuit.
  4. Try not to take life so seriously all of the time.
  5. You define your own happiness.
  6. You will make big mistakes before you make big successes.
  7. Learn to love yourself first.
  8. Feeling everything so deeply is not a curse.
  9. There won’t always be an answer for everything.
  10. Asking for help is something worth practicing.
  11. Life may not always go to plan.
  12. Take notice who is actually there for you when you need it the most.
  13. You can always start again.
  14. Don’t worry so much about the future that you aren’t enjoying the present.
  15. Make time to do what makes you feel good.
  16. Put your energy into what you are doing not others.
  17. Rid yourself of unrealistic expectations especially of others.
  18. Those who hurt you are there to teach you.
  19. You can always trust yourself.
  20. Risks are sometimes worth taking.
  21. Choose love over fear.
  22. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
  23. You can achieve great things on your own.
  24. Your passion can be your purpose.
  25. Working hard is the solution to your dreams.
  26. You are and always have been enough.
  27. Incredible things happen when you follow your heart.

I hope you enjoyed this short and sweet pre-Birthday celebration post as much as I did writing it. Reflection is a beautiful thing. Here’s to another 27 lessons and so, so many more to come. Dear life, you wild SPARKLY thing.. BRING IT ON.

All my love,

Photo Shoot for SPARKLE on darling + Behind the Scenes

When I first started working on my blog, a lot of the choices I made came down to what I could do myself and what I needed to outsource for. I have over time read and followed a lot of blogs so I knew that if I were to invest in one thing for my blog it would be the photography, so I went and did my research, found an incredible photographer to help me create my vision and the journey of the SPARKLE on darling photo shoot started from there.. and what a journey this was. Who knew that having to organise and get everything to come together for a photo shoot would be such a big job. Ready to see what it was like for me behind the scenes? I can’t wait to share all of this with you..

The Raw + The Real

Firstly I want to get raw and real with you. Organising this photo shoot was a lot of work, it took a lot of my personal down time and energy. You would think that you just contact a photographer and show up, right? Not in my case. For me my creative brain was going a hundred miles an hour as soon as I decided this was what I wanted to do, and at the same time I wanted to keep it as organic as possible, so blending the two well, let’s just say it all worked out in the end, but I was nearly in tears after the shoot because of how happy I was that it all finally came together.

Working on SPARKLE on darling was also during an extremely busy time in my working life, by busy I mean I had just been promoted and we were busier than ever. My body during this eventually came to a point where it started to shut down, it was telling me to slow down, and in fact probably to stop. I ended up with a severe tension headache running through my entire upper body for about a month, and would you know from looking at my photos that on the day of the photo shoot I was so unwell? No thankfully because of my incredible photographer who made the experience so much fun, that the pain I was in within my body became secondary and my sole job of being a model that day was most definitely a priority, that day my smile was in full motion.

The Photographer

When choosing a photographer I knew I wanted someone to help me brand myself as who I am personally, but also professionally. I wanted someone to help me bring my vision of my blog to life with my philosophy keeping with everyday wellbeing, wholesome eating and simple living. During my search I came across Kelly Adams Photography, her focus is on family and wedding photography, but after a search through her site I came across Creative Branding. After looking through her recent Creative Branding sessions I knew that this was everything I wanted. I sent off an email and we began working together from there.

Kelly was so helpful every step of the way, and also incredibly patient with me as I tried to pull everything together (literally down to the night before). We got there though in the end and Kelly helped more than helped me create everything I envisioned, she helped me create everything I could have ever hoped for. So grateful to have been able to work with someone so passionate, creative and full of SPARKLE.

Instagram @kellyadamsphoto

Website http://kellyadamsphotography.com.au/

The Location

Choosing a location was the hardest part for me. Some are blessed to have photographic homes, with beautiful lighting and clean white walls, this though is something I currently do not have, so a beautiful location for me was a must.

I went through a lot of options until I finally found (again thanks to my photographer Kelly) the stunning studio in Albion, Brisbane, Vieille Branche ‘a creative space in an industrial backstreet warehouse’ – Viellie Branche. The options before this space though included one that I got approved for, then knocked back only a couple of days out from my original shoot day, which was really hard as I was on a tight time frame to get everything to come together if I was going to launch in July. Thankfully though I was easily approved for the final (and best if I don’t say so myself) location after taking a chance and them being incredibly kind about all of my requests. Forever thankful to have the opportunity to work in such a divine creative space.

Instagram @vieillebranche

Website http://vieillebranche.com.au/

Clothes + Props

Choosing what I would wear and use in the photo shoot for me was probably the easiest part, because my vision from the very beginning for SPARKLE on darling was to be as relateble as possible, and always be true to who I am. I didn’t want to promote big labels or brands, I didn’t want to use fast fashion or wear something just to get attention, I wanted to focus on my mission.

A lot of the clothes and accessories were pieces I already owned, some I’d had for years. I ended up purchasing only a couple of new plainer pieces to keep the ‘no label’ feel under wraps, such as the t-shirts I wore and the knit. There were also a few pre-loved pieces in the mix that I had gotten from an op shop and from Gumtree (an online second hand website) to use for the shoot. These second hand pieces I don’t think I could have ever found in a fast fashion store, or even a boutique, the sparkle dress I have used to brand my blog being one of them (best pre-loved find ever).

Hair

I wasn’t able to book my hair with the hairdresser that I originally planned on going to for my photo shoot due to the date not being set in stone and having to change it in amongst the planning. There was this hairdresser though that I had always seen on my way to work, Bach Hair. The shop front is absolutely gorgeous, I could tell it had a lot of character and I had always wanted to try it out, so I booked my appointment.

I went for a natural wave after getting my hair cut short again the week before. The hair style lasted the entire shoot, was perfect for the initial photographs where I had the sparkle dress on and then loosened up even more perfectly for the more relaxed shots. I was so in love, it was exactly what I had envisioned. They also treated me with a beautiful long black coffee, a great way to start the day.

Instagram @bachhair

Website http://www.bachhair.com.au/

Makeup

Once again with the uncertainty of everything coming together I ended up going to Napoleon Perdis at Indooroopilly to get my makeup done. I was able to book it easily in advance and at the perfect time to also fit in with my hair appointment prior and photo shoot after. I’ve honestly never had so much fun getting my makeup done before, the make up artist that was looking after me was so raw, real and down to earth, we immediately clicked and I loved that.

It was so nice to just relax and enjoy the experience as this was the last thing I needed to do before all systems go that afternoon.

I also got back in products what I spent on my make up which was a total bonus to have the same products to touch up with during the shoot (although I kept forgetting of course!).

Website http://napoleonperdis.com/

Photo Shoot Day

Although I wasn’t totally myself because I wasn’t well on the day of the shoot, it was still the most magical day. I felt like Cinderella all day, from getting totally pampered to being photographed, this day was all about me and that for me was beyond amazing. I sometimes feel like I give so much of myself to others, leaving myself a little empty from time to time, so it was nice to enjoy something that was totally for me, about me and my dreams and passions.

Looking back on the photos now I feel like it looks like a bloggers fairytale. I still can’t believe that everything came together like I did, and because of these photos, SPARKLE on darling really is my dream online space. I cannot wait to do another photo shoot in the future, but for now, these make me so incredibly happy and full of self love.

Photo by Kelly Adams Photography

Thank you to everyone who helped me along the way to make it happen, to all of the businesses and most importantly Kelly, for everything you helped me with and did for me, I couldn’t have brought SPARKLE on darling to life without you. So thankful and so grateful..

All my love,

Creating Body Positivity through Self Love

Photo by Kelly Adams Photography

It’s flaws me when I think that throughout our lives that out of all the things we are taught when we are at our most vulnerable, when we soak the most in, and when we are ‘finding ourselves’, self love isn’t one of them. Being positive about the person we see in the mirror is hard when the world is continuously shoving in our faces over-edited imagery and manipulative media stories about how we ‘should’ look and feel. The most important person to listen to is you, the person you see in the mirror every day, which is why I believe body positivity starts with self love.

Let’s talk about self love.. Self love is not a destination, it is like life, a journey. I don’t believe we ever get to a place of complete self love, no, I believe that we are all always going to be a work in progress, that the journey of self love is about loving the person that’s in progress, no matter the state of being. We must learn to love what we see, no matter how far away it is from what we want to see, because how can one ever be happy if one is always wanting to see something else in the first place.

To start to love the person you see in the mirror, you have to start to allow yourself to. Allow is a strong word when it comes to self love, it’s something so many of us seem to fight. I found peace within my body when I allowed myself to let go of the negativity about how I felt about myself and allowed the positive vibes to flow in. This was a choice, this took time and a lot of work from within.

When I would look in the mirror I practiced only saying good things. This may sound simple to some, but it wasn’t for me. It did though eventually begin to sink in from the impact it was having on myself and my life after practicing this form of self love and creating mantras for myself to repeat daily. We weren’t all made different only to look like someone else, you were born unique, you are beautiful and always have been no matter the stage of your journey.

The person in the mirror is suffering if every time you look at them you don’t like what you see. Why don’t they deserve to be loved today, not just when you’ve achieved your goals. Love is fuel, love is motivating, love is inspiring. Treat your body with the love it deserves and everything starts to change.

When I started to practice self love about my body; the pressure started to ease, I started to find peace and contentment when I allowed myself to feel beautiful no matter what I saw. I also took some physical actions towards working on my own body positivity as well. I got rid of any clothes that didn’t fit properly and kept what made me feel good and comfortable, I unfollowed accounts on social media that made me feel less than about my body and my choices, I consciously say thank you when someone gives me a compliment instead of making an excuse or putting myself down.

I understand that everyone’s journey is different and it’s easier said than done sometimes I know, trust me I know, for me though working on how I feel about my body and myself through self love first has been life changing. It has made room for so much good to come into my life, it has changed my outlook on my choices and helped me to let go of a lot of guilt weighing me down about the person I thought I should be and what I thought I should be doing when I looked in the mirror.

Food for thought.. So you have goals for the future, but who’s to say you aren’t already the best version of you? Allow yourself to love yourself now, I promise it will be worth it.

All my love,